A person’s measured IQ, or “intelligence quotient,” is typically a psychological assessment of logical reasoning, memory, and intellect. It is not a measure of the health of our social connections, a person’s empathy or their success, although it tends to influence many people. of these experiences a 2017 research evaluationpeople with high IQs tend to have more positive life outcomes than their low IQ peers, including better jobs, more comfortable financial situations, and even healthier relationships. They have a kind of curiosity, empathy and intellect that benefits many things, including their communication styles.
In fact, there are specific phrases that people with high IQs often use that can help them find success in protecting their emotional health and cultivating healthy connections and community in their lives.
Here are 10 phrases that people with high IQs often use, according to psychology
1. ‘Let’s Unpack That’
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While traditional IQ tests generally covering a range of topics and skills from memory to general reasoning, a large portion of the traits that high IQ people embody are related to analytical thinking. They strive for a common understanding of all things, whether it is a problem they hope to solve, an element of their job or education, or even the underlying emotions behind a conflict in their relationship.
According to a study published in the Journal of Intelligencehigh intelligence is not necessarily a prerequisite for solving problems in the real world. There is no causal link, but people with high IQs tend to have a more curious, intuitive and engaging attitude when it comes to unpacking, empathizing and truly understanding problems, perspectives and issues.
2. ‘I feel that’
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Although high intelligence does not necessarily determine social awareness and emotional intellect, research published in the Marriage & Family Review suggests that people with high IQs tend to seek out connections and peers from whom they can not only learn, but also bond with in a healthy way. They are more aware of the big picture, especially because they need open communication and empathy to connect with others, and how that social connection adds value to their lives.
Because they are aware of it emotional skills Although they tend to be more sensitive to criticism or disagreement about their perspectives, they also participate more in investigative discussions and debates than their peers. They can speak objectively, drawing on their own emotions and experiences, without attacking or trying to silence anyone else’s voice.
Using these types of expressions helps them share their experiences while openly listening and learning from other people, even in the midst of a disagreement or conflict.
3. ‘I don’t know’
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Although people with higher IQs tend to have better memories, absorb more information, and recall better than their peers, they are not perfect. There will be things they don’t know. However, the way they navigating through not knowing in conversations and interactions is what sets them apart.
Simply put, they are curious rather than combative. According to a 1999 studyThere is a greater correlation between denial tendencies and defensiveness in people with lower IQs than in people with higher IQs, mostly in light of these debates and conversations. People with lower IQs tend to be less confident, likely due to feeling less worthy in educational settings earlier in life, and rely on defensiveness to cope with feelings of shame.
4. “I can understand why you feel this way”
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Although people with higher IQs are often more self-aware and confident as a result of their emotional intelligence, driven by a desire to understand, they are also more empathetic and curious about why other people feel the way they do, act the way they do, and say the things they say. They want to understand other people, even if they don’t agree with them or share experiences with them.
By empathizing with others, using the key phrases that psychology suggests people with high IQs often use, and communicating openly and curiously, they create healthier connections and more fulfilling relationships.
5. ‘What do you mean?’
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People with higher intelligence have a greater desire to be understood and to understand other people in their relationships and daily lives compared to their peers. They understand the importance of connection and collaboration, whether in a professional space, a personal home or in a passing interaction on the street.
When we spend time getting to know each other – from the perspectives of our colleagues to the intrinsic values of our neighbors – we add value to our connections, conversations and debates.
6. ‘I would like your help with this’
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People with a high IQ are not afraid of that celebrate the successes of othersdiverting attention from themselves and working together to solve a problem. They are adamant about asking for help or advice when they need it, and are unconcerned about others’ misleading perceptions and opinions of them.
Especially for people of higher intelligence who struggle with mental health issues or hyperactivity, as shown in a study published in the journal Intelligence common in states, asking for help may be the most self-confident practice they adopt in their daily lives. Rather than struggling in silence or fearing the perceived emotional fears that come with asking for help, high IQ people use phrases like these to encourage social interaction and support in their relationships.
7. ‘Thank you’
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People with a high IQ are a sign of both understanding and emotional intelligence. People with high IQs tend to express gratitude and share admiration more often than their peers. They respect the knowledge, advice and perspectives of others, even if they disagree, and are not afraid to engage in discussions where they are not the only ones contributing.
Laying the foundation for their healthy connectionsIntelligent people validate the opinions and thought processes of others while making room for meaningful conversations and mutual respect.
8. ‘Let’s Risk It’
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A 2015 study from Finland found that people with higher levels of intelligence are more likely to take risks and be open to new challenges than their peers with lower IQs. Even in seemingly risky situations, more intelligent people have a better sense of situations and experiences that can add value to their lives, whether they succeed or not.
While it may seem like carelessness to the average person, this risk appetite and openness to a challenge is a generally self-aware trait of intelligent people that helps them live more fulfilling lives and shape their future from a big-picture perspective.
9. ‘Let’s take a step back’
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People with higher intelligence often solve everyday problems in unexpected ways, benefiting themselves and others while adding value to many aspects of their lives and relationships.
They have a complex foundation of thinking and tend to adopt unexpected and unconventional ways of thinking, not because they actively try to do so, but because they operate from a big picture perspective where niche societal norms, oppression and expectations do not weigh them down. just as heavy as others.
10. ‘This reminds me of…’
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People with higher intelligence and often higher emotional intelligence can also be great teachers, because they bridge the gap between complex topics and more digestible and inclusive discussions. They make space for everyone to feel heard and respected, even if that means connecting the dots and setting aside more of their complex factual intellect and information.
Intellect is not just about your wealth of knowledge and academic success, it is also about thinking a great perspectivewhere we are committed to open communication and creating more thoughtful and curious spaces for healthy conversations and debates.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in social relations and policy and gender studies, focusing on psychology, relationships, self-help and human interest stories.
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